Na je bevalling wil je zo snel mogelijk je eigen lichaam weer terug. Heel begrijpelijk maar je heb negen maanden een kind gedragen. In tegenstelling tot het beeld dat wordt geschetst, is het onmogelijk om binnen een paar dagen weer terug in shape te zijn.

Je bent niet de enige mama die met een buikje en striemen struggelt. Steeds meer vrouwen delen hun postpartum body op social media. Ze zijn er in alle soorten en maten met samen één gemeenschappelijk doel: zie je postpartum lichaam niet als vreselijk, maar wees er trots op. Het is jouw persoonlijke verhaal op weg naar moederschap.

Deze vrouwen deelden hun verhaal en postpartum lichaam op Instagram. Ze zijn enorm verschillend, maar stuk voor stuk prachtig en uniek.

1. Abigail Wedlake

2. Ruth Lee

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I'm posting this tonight with tears in my eyes. I can't help it. The pregnancy and birth of my little girl was the most amazing thing I've ever been a part of. Some people don't want kids, and I respect that. Really, I do. But for me, You see, I always have. When it finally happened though, it was so hard to fully comprehend. Pregnancy and babies, I mean that's common. It's everywhere. But when it's YOUR body and YOUR baby, it's so different. You literally feel like it's a miracle. Because, when it happens to you, it is. What brings me to Instagram tonight, is the post-baby. I followed SO many pregnant models during my pregnancy. And when they photographed themselves pool-side 5 minutes postpartum, I thought, "wow! I hope that happens to me!" I was 25 when I gave birth. I was healthy. I was young. I stayed active during my pregnancy. I took the best prenatals, went to the gym, used every kind of stretch mark prevention you could think of. I took hours of birthing classes, read every book under the sun, and studied natural childbirth my whole pregnancy. I STILL ended up with a traumatic labor, cesarean section, scars, stretch marks, and unfortunately the inability to breastfeed long term. I took this picture a few days after I gave birth, when my PPD really first reared its head into my life. I took this and actually was horrified. I couldn't believe it was me. I'm sharing it because I know in my heart that there are people out there that struggle with inadequacy. That might think they are not beautiful, that they might be ruined, less worthy, or not good enough. Yours might not actually be physical scars, but maybe, a failed relationship, a difficulty in your career, a mental struggle, money issues, or just feeling lost in life. Be kind to yourself. And know that you are not alone. Comparison is the thief of joy. Don't let social media taint your view of what is beautiful, what is REAL. And above all, know that if you are struggling, I am here. I have an open inbox or (if you actually know me) an open door. #stopcensoringmotherhood #nofilter

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3. Ana Rojas Bastidas

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"My body looks just like yours!" is the WHOLE point of this account. I was sitting in my little corner of the world swearing up and down that I was the only person who looked like me. It's a lonely feeling. Made even more lonely because I had been convinced that stretch marks and scars and loose skin were disgusting. Not even gonna sugar coat it. This is how extreme we view these things and it's all a complete distraction and waste of our time and energy. We have a life to live, laughter to share, and love to ignite the passions that drive our purpose. We have endless gifts to share with the world and we can't even begin to think about it if we're constantly lost in our alleged brokenness and feelings of shame. This feeling stops us from being able to do more than rock a crop top. It stops us from pursuing opportunities, relationships, and pleasure because that's how deep these issues run. When you say you're afraid for your partner to see you, what you're really saying is "I don't want to be rejected for having failed to deliver on an expectation that I've been told is easily preventable if I cared and worked hard enough. So, if I am rejected it'll be my fault." I know. I said those things to myself, too. Thank goodness that I listened to that tiny tiny voice whispering "that's bullsh*t. you know it and if you don't believe me, try me." Here I am yelling now THIS IS BULLSH*T. YOU KNOW IT. IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE ME, TRY ME. Be a whole person thrusting yourself towards the gifts meant for you and then share them with the world that needs them desperately. 💖✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ #bemorethanabody #stretchmarks #scars #takebackpostpartum #looseskin #scarrednotscared #mummytummy #effyourbeautystandards #stopcensoringmotherhood #mombod

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4. Tess

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Each day feels like a battle to learn how to love my body postpartum. It's been 6 months, & my stomach is lower, my breasts are a different shape, new stretch marks & I feel like a stranger in my body more than ever. I wasn't anticipating this at all. I'm not used to looking in the mirror & feeling like I don't recognize myself, but sadly that's my reality some days. I debated on whether or not to post this, but I think it's important to be honest about what it's like to be a woman in the media, who recently had a baby & the pressure that's put on new moms to "lose the baby weight". I was fat before, I carried a healthy baby, & guess what, still fat… & THATS OKAY. I have no New Years resolution to lose weight, but only to work on learning my new body & loving & nurturing it. Not a day goes by that Nick doesn't tell me how beautiful I am, but it's not our partners job to lift our spirits, we have to be our own cheerleaders. So that's what I will do, take it day by day. It's a journey, not a race.. & a beautiful one at that. #6monthspostpartum #effyourbeautystandards @effyourbeautystandards

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5. Elise

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Let's talk postpartum bodies! I asked @belleverdiglionephotography to take this photo, just hours after giving birth to Willa, in my rawest and most vulnerable state. I was in pain and I was overcome by a flood of emotions. Elated to have welcomed our beautiful girl and so empowered and proud of what my body and I had just done! It's a strange feeling to look down and still see a bump, even though you're holding your baby in your arms, even after doing it three times. It's not easy to go home with a baby and still have to wear maternity clothes. With my first I was adamant I would just "bounce back". Everyone would say "you're young, you'll loose the baby weight in no time!" But you know what, I didn't, I never have in fact. With each baby I've gained a few more kilos and a few more stretch marks. I used to feel the need to cover up in this newborn stage, I didn't want to see my body in this state, so why would anyone else? It's taken me three babies, but I've finally realised this postpartum body isn't something to hide! I am beyond proud for what this body has given and sacralised. I am thankful that my body is able to carry and birth babies naturally. I am NOT ashamed of my (many) new stripes and my postpartum body. And neither should you! Let's celebrate postpartum bodies, in all their glory. The female body is incredible and I am so proud of what mine has done!

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